Unconditional

In today’s society, women are encouraged to be independent and to stand on their own but then we wonder why so many are alone.  I think that society has taught us wrong and women are not meant to be completely independent because we are in fact designed to submit. Every relationship is not meant to be and I am certainly not saying that women should put up with abuse.  There is a process to selecting a mate that many people bypass with this culture of hook ups and sexual independence. Sex creates a soul tie; so by giving their bodies too quickly, women are bonding to men who they really were never meant to be with.

1 Thessalonians 4:3 (KJV)- For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication:

Ideally a man should court a woman before she gives herself to him. In the course of his rising to meet her expectations, love develops and trust is built in knowing that he is willing to work and sacrifice for her. If relationships are done the right way,  the woman takes her time in selecting a man; requires a marital commitment before sex; then she can be confident in her decisions and more apt to stand by his side even if he messes up and hurts her. After all, no one is perfect and we all make mistakes. We all have issues to address. There is a divine order to relationships and someone has to submit.  

Ephesians 5:22-24 (KJV)- Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body. 24Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

The theme of today is keep it moving and marriages break up at the drop of a hat. We’ve all heard that the divorce rate in America is 50%. That should be an indication that we are doing something wrong. True love is unconditional.

John 15:12 (KJV)-This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you.

Have you ever stopped to think about what that really means? God loves us despite all of our imperfections and flaws.  He does not walk out on us when we mess up; nor does he give up on us. I see so many women hurt and angry over failed love and men that did them wrong. So I wrote this piece for my sisters. 

Unconditional

I hate to see her hurting so

I want to tell her to just let him go

he chose not her but the hoe

but she didn’t even want him though

when he called she would not answer the phone

While she was out, he was home

but he was not alone

his side piece did what she would not do

now she’s always crying the blues

she tried to find someone to fill his shoes

but he could not replace her boo

she thought she’d beat him at his game

but men and women are not the same

men can cheat and feel no shame

they don’t even need to know her name

while women feel guilt and pain

Instead of placing blame she could have stepped up her game

and proclaimed  love and re-sparked their  flame

but instead she became his ex-

and now she’s perplexed

because he moved on

when he moved out it was agreed upon

so why is she so sad that he’s now gone

I’ll tell you why, though you may think I’m wrong

It’s because love should be life long

There’s no such thing as the perfect man

They’re all just doing the best they can

It’s okay to understand

And hold his hand

help him Grow and be his fan

It’s also okay to take a stand

But you better have a game plan

Because love never stays as it began

And unless you want to keep starting over again

Someone’s got to stick like glue             

And if it’s not him then it should be you

You can keep it moving

But what are you proving

Since you are not a bus or a train

By constant motion, you have nothing to gain

With devotion you can attain

Unconditional love

© 2013 Savvy Brown